TOTAL HEALTH TRANSFORMATION SYSTEM
You get knocked down, but you get up again.
Bouncing back from setbacks
That quality is resilience—the ability to rebound from challenge, setbacks, and crisis. It’s a skill to be practiced, learned, and improved.
You can’t always control what happens to you.
But you can control your beliefs about adversity, and how you act in the face of adversity.
[Resilience] is the virtue that allows us to face the world head on like daring adventurers, to strike out into the unknown like courageous explorers. It is the quality that enables us to take risks, to reach out to others, and to live deeply and powerfully.
—Brett and Kay McKay, Building Resiliency
Your resilience idol
Think of someone in your life who has inner strength.
Someone who’s a true survivor. Someone who just seems to keep carrying on through thick and thin. Someone who stays relatively cheerful and positive even when things around them suck.
You know—the kind of person you’d want on your team if you were trapped on a desert island, the person who always seems to come up with creative solutions or bounce back from adversity.
Imagine that person clearly. (If you can’t imagine a real person, imagine the type of person that this could be.)
That’s your resilience idol.
Now, study and analyze your resilience idol’s coping style.
How do they do it? How do they stay so calm and cool? So unflappable? So problem-solving?
How do they keep going? What keeps them from lying down and crying?
Write down a list of all the qualities and behaviors that your resilience idol has.
What do they believe about adversity?
What do they assume about their own ability to deal with problems?
What do they do in the face of challenge?
Try on some resilience
Today, how could you do a few of those resilient behaviors? Or reframe your existing beliefs?
If you had to pretend to be resilient today, what would that look like?
Look for evidence
Very likely, you’re already pretty resilient, even if you don’t always recognize it.
Look for evidence. In the past, how have you demonstrated one or more of these resilient behaviors or beliefs?
What obstacles have you already overcome? How have you already been a survivor?
You may do it a lot more than you realize. Resilience is a skill. It gets better the more you practice.