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Letter to Your Old Self
Get ready to write the most liberating breakup (or love) letter of your life.
Someone you are very close to may be going away soon.
Maybe it will be a loving farewell. Or, maybe you’ll sing “I Will Survive”, and kick them out the door.
Maybe there will be tears. Or custody battles over who gets the beloved sweater or the philodendron. There might even be some dignity-shredding pleading or drunken phone calls at 3 a.m.
Regardless of how sloppy it gets, persevere.
That someone is Old You: The person you used to be.
Old You worked well for you, at one point.
But like an expired lover who’s now snoring and farting in dirty underwear on the couch, it’s time for that self to evolve and move on.
Grow past Old You.
Write a letter to Old You.
You might imagine that you are bidding Old You goodbye.
Dear Old Me:
We’ve had some good times, haven’t we? All that chocolate cake and wine?
I used to think you were really a blast. You sure could rip through a buffet! Ha ha!
But Old Me, I think we need to spend some time apart. You’re hurting me.
I’ve been seeing other people… fit people. And I’ve realized that we don’t really have good chemistry anymore. (I’m talking about my blood chemistry, of course. I don’t think my cholesterol is compatible with your habits.)
I used to think that I couldn’t be myself without you.
Now I know I can — and better.
Please leave the key under the mat, and take the party-sized potato chip bag with you.
Give Old You a hug, tell them that their job is done, and send them on their way.
(Change the locks, just in case.)
Each breakup is unique.
Sometimes Old You just needs to get thrown out in a clean breakup.
More often, Old You really does still love you.
Often, Old You is the part of your brain that’s protecting or trying to help you in some way, even though there’s misguided efforts.
Old You may be like a soldier still fighting battles that ended a long time ago. They’re still out on the front lines, bravely defending you. Nobody told them the war was over.
Old You might even be Little You, a child-self who got “stuck” in an earlier behavior pattern, and stayed bravely at their post, never getting the memo that it was time to let go and grow up.
You might find that being compassionate works better than being angry.
You might find that instead of breaking up with Old You, you simply… absorb Old You, keeping all their best features with you.
You might tell them how much you love the New, more wise You.
“Try on” different messages to Old You, and see what resonates.
It may be “go away”. It may be “thank you”. It may be “I love you and I’m sorry.”
Experiment and see what works for you.
Remember that Old You probably had some reason to be there. Old You may even be Child You.
Be gentle and loving, and firm.
This is your letter. This is your You.
So make it work for all your Yous.